1. Solidarity
Harmonious love from both parents working together on one accord to raise their children and build a strong family connection.
2. Real Love
Give your little girl AND your little boy genuine love, affection, hugs, kisses, and politeness, which covers a multitude of parental bloopers.
3. Bonafide I Love You’s
Your children must know without a doubt that you love them dearly and that you always will even when they are hardheaded and mess up, when they’re disobedient and rebellious.
4. Wisdom Nugget—There Are No Perfect Parents
Accept your imperfections and always be willing to listen, learn, develop and transform.
5. Stability
Provide a stable household atmosphere for your children; even if you must do so as a single parent, it can be done; commit to make it happen—there is help available for you and for them.
6. Security
Give your kids a protective shield that provides them with safety, shelter, food, clothing, medical and dental benefits, educational and social skills keeping them safe and sound, yet not suffocated.
7. Proper Assessments
Censure your children’s actions and behavior by isolating the deed from the doer, working towards solutions by means of discussions and by supplying justifications that explain why their behavior is unacceptable.
8. Fairness, Thoughtfulness, and Discernment
Avoid comparing your children with each other as well as with their peers in a pessimistic way, recognize their differences, do not take sides or fall for their attempts to manipulate you.
9. Open Expression: The Right to Disagree with You and Others
At the appropriate time, teach your children through real life demonstrations that they’re entitled to their own opinion, which must be expressed respectfully and with immediate apologies when they err.
10. Comedy
Wittiness is a product of the whole family environment; consequently, start teaching your children from infancy laughter with your goo-goo baby talk; then later explaining why things are funny, laughing at their jokes, and getting silly to help them develop a sense of humor and become happier, smarter, healthier, confident and better at surviving their challenges.
11. Chastisement
Discipline your children by clearly explaining and consistently administering well thought out, rational rules, guidelines and punishments for blatant violations.
12. Leadership by Example
Strive to be cool, calm and collected—control your attitude and temper; yelling and screaming simply intimidate children while extinguishing their trust and feelings of safety; be quick to say, “I’m sorry” and mean it.
13. Freedom of Speech
Allow your children to express themselves earnestly and involve them in decision-making processes that directly affect them; thereby, empowering them to think and to make good judgments.
14. Patience and Recognition
When your children are stubborn and disobedient, resolve the issue with less conflict and aggravation for both of you by not forcing their compliance; stop and ask both yourself and your children “Why is this happening?” without overlooking the possible link between biology and behavior.
15. Parental Controls
Set up controls to filter and monitor your children’s Internet usage, report cyber bullying to the appropriate social media network, protect them from online grooming by strangers, make sure they are playing online games appropriate for their age group, and have a talk with them about pornography.
16. Premises of Optimistic Anticipation
Clearly define and kindly remind your sons and daughters what your reasonable expectations of them are—respecting their individuality.
17. Prescriptions
Set up structure and boundaries such as bedtimes and curfews for your children so they don’t grow up out of control, become unwise and struggle as adults with obeying local, state and national laws.
18. Strong Moral Foundation
Teach your kids what is right and what is wrong, trust them and produce an environment where they will quickly come to you with ANY problem or concern.
19. Nutritional Alignment
Inspire an overall healthy lifestyle in your children by providing nutritious meals, and allowing them to express their preferences instead of forcing them to consume your choice of meal entrees.
20. Desire for Physical Activity
Encourage exercise via extracurricular activities like T-Ball, ballet, swimming, track, tennis, and even family exercise routines so that for the children getting active and staying healthy becomes fun and easy.
21. Lessons about Money
When they are of age, teach your children how to count, and budget money, as well as how not to waste their money on consumer goods; but rather give to charity, pay themselves, and put some of it into savings.
22. The Taste of Life
Refusal to shelter your children is a marvelous gift to give, for it allows them to experience life for themselves, to learn to make intelligent decisions and to face the consequences of THEIR choices.
23. Freedom of Choice
Give your children options; sometimes just make resources available and then let them fashion their own events and activities with your support and guidance, as necessary.
24. Mentorship
Demonstrate your virtues and be an excellent role model for your children; be the kind of person you want them to become.
25. Regard and Concern
Never, ever fight, argue, doggedly disagree and bicker in close proximity of your children.
26. Individualism
Respect your children’s privacy, and generally speaking, refrain from doing for your children the things they’re capable of doing for themselves.
27. Give Your Approval
Applaud your children with frequent acknowledgements, encouragements and validations so they feel prized, treasured and poised for positive thinking, good relationships, constructive imaginations, lessons in determination and resilience in setbacks.
28. Exhortation
Don’t be brief and miserly, give your children frequent, spirited, descriptive high praises and compliments so they will be incited to repeat and improve their performances—give them far more than the flimsy, “Good job!”
29. Conversational Excellence
Offer your children the greatest communication skills you can by employing words and actions that help build in them conviction, integrity, composure, dignity and self-reliance through precepts and examples.
30. Strong Constitution
Give up your gripping fears and worries for greater faith in God, your children, and their well-being.
31. Self-Defense Skills
It’s a great idea for parents to train their children at home and/or enroll them in self-defense or martial arts classes to diminish their fear of bullies and safeguard them from predators, making certain to engage the children in role playing which is critical for stimulating their confidence and personal power.
32. Firm Control
Refusal to let your children have everything they want—say “No” to them more often and follow it up with the reason for saying no or offer them a substitute option.
33. Education
Assure your children will receive the best possible education at school from the invaluable life skills lessons provided during your time together; assure they develop strong reading skills because the American Academy of Pediatrics calls reading skills “the foundation for children’s academic success.”
34. The Value of Hard Work
Teach your children responsibility by giving them chores followed by an allowance, monetary or non-monetary—an extended curfew, additional play time, or other special privileges—as a return for those jobs well done.
35. Thoughtfulness and Perception
Avoid comparing your children with each other as well as with their peers in a pessimistic way, do not take sides, and for goodness sake, resist their attempts to manipulate you.
36. Self-Assuredness
Give your children a big boost in integrity and autonomy by teaching them to stand up for what they believe in and to take responsibility for their actions, thus supporting their uniqueness and their independence.
37. Prince and Princess Treatment
Make each child believe that he or she is the favorite child—exemplify no partiality which creates low self-esteem, sibling rivalry, disrespect and disharmony in the family unit.
38. The ‘Be True to Yourself’ Lecture
Your children must be trained not to waste their skills and talents trying to be someone else or what others think they should be, for happiness comes from within and true friendship cannot be purchased.
39. Involvement in Their Lives
Take them to a community park, skating rink, a fishing trip, local library, amusement park, museum or a puppetry show; go on a school field trip with them; attend their extracurricular school activities; take them to Sunday School and children’s church.
40. Standard Appointments
Set aside a time to talk to your children individually and equally each day; avoid getting distracted with work, other people or with your cell phone.
41. Honesty
Children take hints from their parents so avoid any kind of deception and DO NOT overreact if your children lie to you; instead, help them understand the importance of telling the truth.
42. A Listening Ear
Pay attention to and respect your children; honor what they want to do with their lives, and don’t weigh them down with rigid, overwhelming demands.
43. Strict Commitment
Make time for your children because they need your presence much more than your presents; give them sincere devotion and be there for the important events in their lives.
44. Hearts of Thanksgiving
Encourage gratefulness and appreciation for even the smallest act of kindness by expressing gratitude to each other in front of your children, and by thanking them profoundly and excitingly when they bring you a bouquet of weeds or a picture of a stick family with a little heart on it.
45. The Golden Rule
Help your children see that that their words and actions cause other people to be happy or sad, and that they should be kind to other people in the same way they want other people to be kind to them.
46. Liberty from your excess baggage
Together, focus on creating your heartfelt dreams and aspirations rather than empowering fears from your past and entrapping your children in them.
47. Date Night
A Date Night Out strengthens marital and family relationships by offering parents a great opportunity to de-stress, relax, and wound down a bit creating guilt-free balance and wholesomeness; while allowing the children to indulge in developing new friendships and a new kind of pleasure especially if they, too, are removed from the home to a safely supervised, entertaining and fun setting.
48. YOUR BEST Body, Mind, Soul and Spirit
Overcome your vices—alcohol, drugs, gambling, rambling, promiscuity, etc—because they jeopardize your children’s health, character and success.
49. Your Full Support
Help your children cultivate a healthy self-image by implanting a positive mindset in them that they are lovable, capable, and unique so they know that being different is acceptable, and that they DO NOT need to follow the crowd.
50. Individual Person Acknowledgement
Your children are not a replica of you, they are not here for you to relive your life through; but, they are sons and daughters for whom you are accountable to develop and nourish according to their own natural abilities. Don’t give up! Parenting is a lifelong assignment. Each day try to become a better one. Featured photo credit: http://www.clearpointcreditcounselingsolutions.org via clearpointcreditcounselingsolutions.org
