1. You’ll know what your partner really thinks
2. You’ll be able to clear the air
3. You’ll be able to set standards for arguing
4. You’ll be reassured
5. You’ll feel more respected
6. You’ll learn to accept other points of view
One great thing about arguing is that you can agree to differ. You do not need to always be right. Too many arguments end up in a match where scoring points seems to take precedence over reaching a compromise or just recognizing that your views are different. This does not invalidate either of you as a person.
7. You’ll know when is a good time
8. You’ll know that arguments can be constructive
9. You’ll know which issues are likely to cause friction
10. You’ll know how to stay on topic
11. You’ll learn more about yourselves
12. You’ll both have better health
13. You’ll be a role model for your kids
How many of us remember the awful rows our parents had with recriminations, accusations, and insults flying around like angry missiles? They never learned to disagree without being disagreeable and unpleasant. It was not exactly a role model. But if you have learned lessons from that and have been able to have constructive arguments with your spouse, then you are providing a great role model for your kids. That unhappy chain has been broken.
14. You’ll treasure the gift of communication
15. You’ll forget about getting revenge
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